in life

TRUST

is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war.

We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.

Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case.

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. .------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation."

Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.

A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.

You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -

BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment.

When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't.

Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.People make mistakes.

We are allowed to make mistakes.

But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"

" Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away "

1

gusto ko sana pang collections of pictures ko lang tong site na to,and then i decided na gawin naring blog space,actually kala ko graduate nko sa pagpopost ng blogs (dahil lahat na yata halos ng blog sites nakapag register nako...friendster,multiply,facebook,bebo,xanga,tabulas,etc...) kaya puro litrato nlng ang pinagkakaabalahan ko ngayon...pero paminsan minsan lagyan ko narin ng kwento para naman hindi mabagot yung (if ever) "someone" na magkakainteres na titingin dito sa blogger ko,hehehe....

well, ito ang first time na maglalagay ako ng kwento dito...

pangalan ko pala "ruby", sabi ng nanay ko hindi daw sya ang nagbigay ng pangalan ko nung pinanganak ako kundi yung doctora daw na nagpaanak sa kanya,kasi naman sobrang pula ko raw nung lumabas ako sa "vaginal opening" ng mama ko kaya sabi ng doctor "R-U-B-Y" nalang daw ang ipangalan sakin, tapos sinundan ng "ruth" na namana ko naman sa pangalan ng nanay ko...kaya siguro lumaki ako na hindi ganun kaclose sa mama ko dahil hindi sa kanya nanggaling pangalan ko,hehehe (halerrrr!!! connection???!!!)

anyway....lima kaming magkakapatid, apat na babae at nagiisang lalaki.....pang apat ako...

sa edad kong 23 meron nakong asawa,pero wala pa akong anak....naaalala ko tuloy nung sinabi ko sa mga kaibigan ko na mag aasawa nako lahat sila halos ang tanong "bakit buntis ka ba???"... sabi ko naman..." hindi noh!!!bakit buntis lang ba ang may karapatang magpakasal at mag-asawa ng maaga???", hehehehe...kasi sa mundo daw ngayon ang madalas lang mag-asawa ng maaga eh kung hindi buntis, ehhhh buntis....hehehehhee....

isang taon at kalahati na akong kasal pero hanggang ngayon hindi parin kami magkasama ng asawa ko, wala kasi siya dito sa pilipinas, sa Chicago sya naka base kasama family nya, nagtatrabaho sya sa US Navy kaya mahirap talagang magkasama kami....pero ok nmn ang buhay namin,kahit sobrang lungkot dahil magkalayo kami kahit papano nagagawa naman naming maging masaya paminsan minsan knowing na we have each other...umaasa na balang araw magkakasama rin kami at hinding hindi na magkakahiwalay pa...hehehe...drama...

sa buong maghapon ilang daang beses ko yata chinechek ang mga web spaces ko...halos 24/7 akong naka log on sa yahoo messenger...every week nagpopost ng bagong picture sa multiply...at mahilig magbrowse ng mga nawawalang kaibigan..hehehe....masaya ako tuwing nakakaharap ako sa computer ko...nakakalimutan ko ang oras pag naka online ako....nakakalimutan ko lahat ng lungkot at hirap pag ginagawa ko to....

sabi nila hopelessly romantic daw ako....madalas naka tulala,malalim ang iniisip, super crybaby...bukang bibig ang pangalan ng asawa ko...mahilig magmunimuni....madrama sa buhay,naiiyak kapag nakakapanuod ng love story,naaawa pag nakakakita ng batang lumuluha,marami pang iba....takot ako sa failure kaya minsan kasisimula ko palang ng isang bagay tumitigil nako agad,natatakot kasi ako na baka pagdating ng oras hindi ko rin matapos ng maayos kung ano man ang sinimulan ko...kaya madalas nauuwi ako sa wala...butata...

sabi nila sayang daw dahil matalino naman ako...most of the time nag eexcel naman daw ako sa kung ano man ang pinapasok ko, madalas lang talaga maunahan ng takot ang dibdib ko kaya nawawalan nako ng spirit tumuloy...

mas gusto kong gawin ang kung anong makakabuti sa mahal ko kesa makakabuti sa akin,mas importante kung ano ang gusto nya kesa sa kung ano ang gusto ko....kasi ayoko ng conflict, ayoko ng gulo...pero kadalasan sa huli hindi parin ako naaappreciate....hindi prin ako gusto....

most of the time takot ako magtiwala sa tao....hindi ko alam kung bakit pero everytime i try to give something lagi na lang na aabuse yung pagiging mabait ko....kaya ayan ngayon ayoko na maging super mabait...hehehe....

mahal ko ang buhay ko,kahit na mas marami ang disappointments ko kesa sa accomplishments..alam kong maligaya parin ako sa kung ano mang buhay ang meron ako ngayon...kahit hindi ko pa alam at wala pang kasiguraduhan kung ano ang kayang kong ibigay sa "bukas", may tiwala parin ako sa sarili ko na hindi ako tatanda na walang saysay, alam ko malapit ko ng makita kung ano talaga ang "worth" ko as a person, hindi lang para sa pamilya at kabiyak ng puso ko, kundi lalong lalo na sa sarili ko as an "individual" dahil alam kong may nagmamahal sakin ng walang kapantay.....si Lord ang number one lovelife ko at "life" ko....

o sige na mukang napahaba na ang pagtatype ko dito....

manunuod pako ng prison break (season3) meron kc akong nabili na dvd...(pirated nga lang,hehehe...patawad po....)